Well, well,well! It's officially FALL!
( okay, not technically yet) but you get my point. September is usually the time when all the summer hype dies down, and if not everybody including your parents, are in a cozy relatioship... Meanwhile the rest of us are how you put it.. um yeah totally, completely, 100% SINGLE. Nothing feels more out of place than going to gathering as the single one.

Goodness sakes, September truly snuck up on me out of nowhere, and I know i'm not the only one who feels this way and it makes it no better when Fall Festivals are coming arounnd the corner and you're just out here wondering 

" How did I get here" while looking at these cheerful happy couples coming out Lenox Mall. The only thing the soothes seeing this  minute is  hot apple cider samples

What do you want? 

What do I want?

 Simple question, but such vast answers. I could go to the grocery  store and know exactly what to get and get there, but pick up 4 more items that I clearly wasn't there for but didn't know I needed them til I got there. 

Thats what it feels like when someone ask the question

 "what do you want in a person?"

Truhfully speaking its a no brainer! But problem is how do we know if what we want is enough? Honestly, the image of the person we know is something we are striving to get, but when we get that person what happens if we're missing the points, or what if the person that we want ends up being half of the features you want, but the plus side is you're getting something you didn't look for? Would that be a absolutely no pass on go for you,or would you give it a chance to let that person evolve and maybe watch it flow? 

The saying goes "You must know what you want to get what you want!"

But maybe there is a complex to that, you can know exactly what you want until you pass by the thing that you need....  

In this era that we're in,   most are seeking out someone with materialistic avenues and that is it. Yes we want someone who can be stable if things arise, but why can't more people start to want some who also has a understanding heart? or someone that has family values, or a person who's spiritually grounded? Most importantly a person that will love you at your best and your worst. 

Don't let the clout of this insta world shade you into thinking only about the pictures and not the life behind them. Chasing the materialistic life will only get below ground zero, so before you say what you want, make sure you gather up your present with your future. I see more women going for the impulse guy who will pass them up when they are done with them like they're recycle bottles because what he appears to be,  and look pass the passionate guy who has the qaulities thats truly obvious what they're in need of and more, but will pass him by because he doesn'thave the look or edge they want. 

I am only saying, know just exactly what you want in who you want and also be sure to know yourself truly and honestly, because each year, slowly, but quickly we ourselves change as we progress within the person we're becoming so just know that what you want is something that you'll be happy with .