Well, well,well! It's officially FALL!
( okay, not technically yet) but you get my point. September is usually the time when all the summer hype dies down, and if not everybody including your parents, are in a cozy relatioship... Meanwhile the rest of us are how you put it.. um yeah totally, completely, 100% SINGLE. Nothing feels more out of place than going to gathering as the single one.

Goodness sakes, September truly snuck up on me out of nowhere, and I know i'm not the only one who feels this way and it makes it no better when Fall Festivals are coming arounnd the corner and you're just out here wondering 

" How did I get here" while looking at these cheerful happy couples coming out Lenox Mall. The only thing the soothes seeing this  minute is  hot apple cider samples

In this time Netflix, snapchat, Instagram, and whatever else out there it's hard not to actually feel kinda off when you're single, and seeing most of your timeline filled with #baes and relationships.  If you're like the 70% of the hopeless romantics in world you're already over it all being  in the single circle, while eating Ben and Jerry's on your 5th Nicolas Sparks movie.




 But if you're on the other end of sappy, you're pretty cool on solo life without a boyfriend just getting to know yourself, and eating all the food you want without sharing. Going to the mall by yourself, hanging with your squad and sitting cute in that new dress and heels because you looking good for you. Yes. Do you boo.



But I mean after a time or year..maybe years.. Doesn't being single get old?  Just as long as you're not acting like those hard women who say "I don't need a man" knowing they do. I mean there is Nothing wrong with getting to know you and loving who you are.  Our generation is on the verge of having a female president!   No we don't need a man, but it's good to have one.  I mean Hilary Clinton has Bill.. Michelle Obama has Barack Obama.


The Good truth is being single allows you to fully know you! The real you and to not be rushing to any random dude that you see around the way. In the words of Lisa Ray "what's an around the way man going to do for me?" Exactly nothing! I say ladies know your worth. Don't go out without a purpose in mind. We see it tons of times on reality shows, Shoot.. in real life where a girl dates a guy for months, without even giving vibe or telling him you'd want a relationship. Please don't go into dating a guy with a "we'll see where it leads us" and you get to a 8 month mark only for him to say "we just kicking it" You'll only be wasting your time, be sweet but not too soft. Being single does not mean "anti social". Single life can be fun...with a group of open minded friends.




If you're single you should take the time to unwind, be with the people you value most...your friends. You can still go out and not be a table for one at chipotle, instead make it a group effort and fest with separate bill. The problem is most girls think it sucks being in the no relationship title but it's never a dull moment when you involve your closes friends! Have movie nights, plan taco Tuesday, make a stayCation with all your favorite movies and snapchat it all to the memories.



Remember wear cutest clothes and not frumpy dumpy wear... You never know who's watching you.
Broaden your horizons! Put down your chips, get off your couch, and See what's happening! I know you're looking great in your pretty PJs, eating chips watching the new episode of Power, it's all good, but you kinda wouldn't mind having someone sitting next to you right? So what you're gonna do about it? Go out and see who's around. Since you're a smart person and know yourself, you're not going to just get the limp guy. Go for the one you know who has something going for themselves. Since you already have some life goals make sure you get a guy who has his ducks in a row like you. Point is... Being Single is Amazing...But a being in a good relationship it amazing too.  If you want time for you, good, if you want someone, that's good too. Know who you are first and just go get em!